Panic!

I am an INFJ and I lived with an ENTP for two years and was always amazed over why it was so importent for him too take me with him when he wanted to go out and meet his friends, because I did not enjoy going out as often as he did and had often told him that. I have though never connected as well with any other person as I did with him. There were just a few minor details where we dissagred and in hindsight, after 4 year realationship whit an ISFP that is now over, I see that there were no real problems in my realationship whit the ENTP, he was always really interesting to me, treated me with great respect and was always willing and able to talk things through, whether it was personal or on any other subject. With all that we could be having a great realationship still to day if I had not been very unmatured and my self esteem had been better at that time. I hear from him every now and again though there are eight years since we lived together. I also think that I learned alot from him, for example how fun it can be to spend a good time with a group of friends every now and again. I really missed that in my last realationship whit the intovert but being an introvert my self I always fail in trying to build a group of friends my self because I have not got the skill to maintain my relationship with friends who are not determined them self to keep in thouch with me back, and I greatly appreciate my friend who are extroverts and keep a place for me in there life though I need a little alone time every now and again.

The advice to not poke the introverts is very astute. I happen to be an INTJ. I realize that much of what I say here is probably more attributed to my INTJ qualities, than just the "I." People often try to pull me into social situations. I will attempt to decline in a nice way, but if the person doesn't let it go, I will likely be abrupt. I percieve the repeated attempts to pull me into larger social situations as disrespect. The person should have heard my "no" the first time.

Though I enjoy socializing on occasion, my preference is to socialize with one person at a time. I'd rather go to the dentist than have to engage in small talk. I don't enjoy groups for the purpose of socializing. I love groups if there is a task at hand or a need for brainstorming. But I see no purpose in socializing for socializing's sake. I think the biggest mistake is intrepreting an introvert's introvertedness as wanting to be involved and not knowing how. We simply don't want to be involved. So please don't poke the introverts.

Angry!? No, not really. And actually quite social. I just haven't the time or energy to sit around gossiping and/or talking about things with people who just want to talk and do nothing. I don't want to talk about a sporting event I want to participate. I don't want watch a porno movie, I'd rather make one. I haven't the ability to listen to people complain about the same situation repeatedly. It's not that we think we know more than anyone else; it is that when know something we're confident in our knowing.

...so when I politely excuse myself from a conversaton, usually because it's become repetitive and boring, please don't follow me because you think I desire company, I'm usually trying to escape a vacuous situation. Please do not continue to blather to me, I have left the situation, I'm finished, and if you continue to blather I will likely tell you how absurd I think you're being and I will not be polite.

"to draw an "I" out of his shell, make him feel good about himself just the way he is and he will naturally do the rest, prepare to be amazed"

I would agree with this. The E personalities seem to be ok with who they are. The I personalities seem to need some external validation first.