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What can an INTP offer a beloved ENTP when the INTP fears that she has little to contribute to the friendship and the ENTP seems bored or disappointed?
Permanent absence? Space and moral support? A wild ride? Vaudeville?
What would you hope for, I wonder?
Permanent absence? Space and moral support? A wild ride? Vaudeville?
What would you hope for, I wonder?
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Re: Caring for ENTP Friends
Tue, December 7, 2004 - 11:27 AMAh.. I have a new boyfriend who is a Teacher (can't recall what the four letters are for that) He is so calming and stimlutating. He gives me plenty of room to be what he calls a quantum particle. He knows that my favorite thing is to have my mind and ideas listened too and complimented and bragged about. Ironically, he is the one sporting the fancy IQ and hot shit brainy career;)
He finds me calming because he is an extrovert and damn smart and likes all the random stimulation as I figure things out. I find him calming because he is not overwhelmed/frustrated by me so I don't feel the pain of hurting someone I care for. He lets me get my stimulation from many sources so I don't feel cornered... not many people can do that so it makes me loyal to him. -
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Re: Caring for ENTP Friends
Tue, January 11, 2005 - 3:16 AMI liked an ENFJ once. Best professor I ever had.
Thanks. The ENTP didn't want my support because he imagined that I wanted or needed more than I did. I couldn't communicate through his imagination. -
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Re: Caring for ENTP Friends
Tue, January 11, 2005 - 11:20 AMAS, that is not a personality thing, that is just a lack of mutal emotional/erotic chemistry and it sucks huh? -
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Re: Caring for ENTP Friends
Tue, January 11, 2005 - 11:44 PMI wasn't assuming it was an ENTP thing particularly. It seems to be pretty common, regardless of type, to hold dreaded expectations of others and not to believe contradictions offered.
(He thought I wanted a commitment from him. Then an acquaintance asked if we were dating, and I said no -- but he contradicted me. He had done that in private several times by continuing to bring up the subject and expressing his worry over it and his desire for friendship only. I had always replied that I didn't care for participating in romantic commitments; I just liked his company. I think he meant it was my friendship that was unrequited, since he later demonstrated as much.)
I think my attention felt too intense to him. That could be an ENTP/INTP matter. -
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Re: Caring for ENTP Friends
Wed, January 3, 2007 - 12:51 PMHow funny. I have been "friends" - with an ENTP professor for almost 15 years, now. I am an INFJ. On many levels we get along great, but the major frustration is that with all that potential...the relationship remains in purgatory. He wigs everytime I so much as indicate that I want a commitment. And its not that I want a commitment exactly, I just what the opportunity. Like let's just open this up and see what happens. I want to be able to relax around him, to see the real me. He seems to keep me at arms length, and the more I act like I don't like him, the more he likes me. And God forbid that I show interest in someone else...because he instantly puts them down. The one time he declared he loved me the most, is when I had forced myself to give up hope and began seeing someone else, and it broke my heart because I still loved him. It's crazy. -
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Re: Caring for ENTP Friends
Sat, January 13, 2007 - 7:22 PMAhh that is so ENTyPical... Entps running after what they can't have! I never ever ever want anyone who chases me around. The fight is over. Why would I want what I could have so easily? Play hard to get (just like you were when you became disinterested) and stay that way.... if its romantically involved try and hold off sex as long as possible.
Try messaging him on the computer, talking for a little bit then just don't reply. Act too busy for him.... and act like you could care less =*)
Treat your love as something that needs to be earned! and don't give it up yo! 2 steps forward and one step back is the right way to play this.
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Re: Caring for ENTP Friends
Tue, November 29, 2005 - 11:48 AMThis advice is probably too late it being 2005/2006 now, BUT, have no fear about the way that an ENTP seems to be percieving you--- they have no feelings! Or I should say their feelings don't mean as much to them.
It sounds like you are overthinking the situation--ENTPs may seem bored or distracted--it is not relative to you--they are just processing on a few different levels at once. But Vaudeville does work by the way!
